About Us
Culture, Community & Guidelines

Hello and welcome! We are Sasha & Steve, the owners of Club BIA Vida and ambassadors to the Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) community. Club BIA Vida (BIA) is a private, members-only, lifestyle social club where we focus on fostering an inclusive culture that values "quality over quantity" & "people over profits."

Club BIA Vida is not a specific location—we are an online community of ENM members, who provide a unique experience to all of our LS parties/events, no matter the venue.

If you’re looking for a space to build genuine connections on multiple levels, Club BIA Vida welcomes you with open arms.

The Essence of Community at BIA Vida

At its heart, community is not just about shared spaces — it’s about shared values. At Club BIA Vida, we believe real community is built on connection, contribution, and care. It’s about showing up not only for yourself, but for those around you.

A community thrives when everyone feels seen, respected, and valued. That’s why we focus on fostering inclusion over exclusivity, and belonging over popularity. We’re not a clique — we’re a collective of individuals who celebrate diversity, authenticity, and mutual respect. Every person adds their unique energy to the whole.

We encourage members to lift each other up — to celebrate one another’s wins, support one another’s boundaries, and contribute to the energy that makes BIA Vida what it is: a sanctuary of connection, kindness, and sexy authenticity. The goal isn’t to fit in — it’s to be free enough to stand out, together.

That’s what it means to “Bare It All.” Not just in body, but in truth, presence, and heart.

When We Express Our Vision about "Community"

At its core, community is about connection through shared purpose, values, or experiences.
It’s not just a group of people who happen to be in the same place — it’s people who feel seen, supported, and included within something larger than themselves.

A true community has:

Belonging – People feel like they’re part of something, not just attending it.
Trust – There’s mutual respect and understanding of shared boundaries.
Shared identity – Members see their values reflected in the group’s culture.
Support & reciprocity – People give and receive help, ideas, or encouragement freely.
Evolution – It grows as members contribute; it’s not owned by one person, but co-created.

Community isn’t something that can be manufactured or imposed — it’s something that grows naturally when people find meaning in belonging. True community forms when its members see real value in being part of something greater than themselves, and when they actively care for and contribute to it.

At BIA Vida, we don’t just host events — we nurture connection. Every member plays a vital role in shaping the energy that surrounds us. It’s through participation, respect, and shared intention that our collective spirit thrives.

If you feel inspired by the idea of building something meaningful — of helping create a space where trust, fun, and freedom can coexist — we invite you to join us in strengthening the foundation of our community. Share your desires, your insights, and the values you cherish most. Together, we’ll continue to build something that reflects the best of us all.

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What does BIA Vida mean?

Bare. It. All. Life
Few social spaces exisit where it is safe to fully expose your authentic self... both literally and metaphorically. The very foundation of Club BIA Vida is about providing such a space, where you are free & safe to Bare It All.

💞 Emotional Intelligence is Sexy 💞

Relationships are beautifully complex. At CLUB BIA VIDA, we believe emotional intelligence isn’t just valuable—it’s essential.

This space is designed to be uplifting, joyful, and drama-free. Respect, communication, and emotional maturity lead the way here. Bring that vibe, and you’ll not only strengthen your relationship, but also become a beloved part of this vibrant, connected community.

Practicing emotional intelligence means knowing how to recognize and manage your emotions, communicate with care, and respond thoughtfully to challenging moments. When you're able to approach your partner — and others — with empathy and understanding, you build deeper bonds that go beyond the physical. That’s when the real magic happens.

This environment is designed to be uplifting, joyful, and drama-free. If you're in a space with your partner that feels unsettled, we lovingly ask you to pause and reflect — is this the right time and place for us to connect with others?

Should tension arise during an event, please take a moment to step into a private space to work things through with intention and respect. If the situation becomes disruptive to others, we’ll need to ask you to leave — and depending on the nature of the disruption, re-entry to future events may not be granted.

At the end of the day, we’re here to create something truly special: a space where respect, communication, and emotional maturity lead the way. Bring that vibe, and you'll not only strengthen your relationship, but also become a beloved part of this vibrant, connected community.

🖤 Because being emotionally in tune is so Very Sexy.

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Single Male Incorporation Strategy

We promote inclusion with careful consideration. Our wristband system ensures everyone feels safe and respected.

We fully empathize with the views of many couples in this community regarding single men. Our top priority is to provide a safe space for all our patrons to freely express themselves without fear of harassment, assault, shaming, or invasion of privacy.

We use a wristband policy so single males can be identified, and ladies wristband signal if they do or do not wish to be approached by single males. Generally our single male to couple ratio is about 1:5, our single males are well vetted and wrist bands make it really easy to incorporate some single males friends without compromising the experience for couples who do not engage with signle males.

The wristbands don't signal your willingness or non-willingness to engage in play, but rather your willingness to be approached by interested single-males. Simply put, it's a road map to help single males know where best to focus their energy.

We have a Zero Tolerance policy when it comes to our consent policies. Our single males are vetted and thoroughly informed about the expectations and behavior expected.

Our verbal consent requirement for any and all touching are in full affect, always... at all gatherings, and for all attending guests, irregardless of wristband color, non-verbal cues, past encounters or prior consent.

Men Are Assigned Wristbands
🟡 Yellow = Single Males 🔵 Blue = Husbands/Partners:

Women Choose their Wristband
🔴 Red = Not interested in being approached by single males
🟢 Green = Open to respectful approaches (with verbal consent)
Red or Green Wristband color simply indicates a ladies interaction desire at present. These can change from day to day, or even over the course of a single day.
Do not perseive them as a representation of overall openness or approachability.
Ladies, take comfort in the knowledge that you are allowed to change your mind whenever, and without explanation.

Read our complete Guidelines for Single Males for a more comprehensive explanation about our vetting and approval process.

Club Guidelines

We welcome freedom of expression in all its forms, but sexual energy should never be forced or assumed.
That includes:

Never expect sex. We are first & foremost a social clubmaking connections should be
Consent, respect, and acceptance are non-negotiable.
Nudity is not an invitation for comments, groping, or sexualized attention.
Respect all bodies, boundaries, and expressions.
No touching without verbal permission.
No shouldn't have to be said more than once. Don't be that relentless person hoping to tire someone out of resisting your advances.
Do Not get overtly intoxicated or openly use drugs —entry denied if impaired.
Don't harass, act creepy, or "thirsty."
Keep at least 10 feet of distance from anyone in open play areas, cabanas, or rooms—unless you’re explicitly invited in.
Play rooms—observe respectfully unless invited. No approaching a bed unless those using it verbally invite you.
No systamatic soliciting — not yourself, and certainly not your partner.
We are near a main road & a neighborhood, be properly dressed when walking to and from your car.

Club Rules

❌ Touching or Grabbing without asking is prohibited.

❌ Silence ≠ consent. An absense of "Yes" is a No.

❌ No illegal drugs, fighting, or weapons.

❌ No glass in pool/jacuzzi areas.

❌ No sexual activity in pool/jacuzzi.

❌ Stay 10ft away from play unless invited.

❌ No photos without staff permission.

❌ No public masturbation. (The creepy frantic kind... we're not saying you can't touch yourself)

❌ No diving off or climbing on the grotto.

⚠️ Break any rule = immediate removal & termination of membership. NO refunds. NO second chances.

Community First

At Club BIA Vida, we trust our members to uphold the spirit of the community. Rules aren’t about policing—they exist because each one was created with intention: to protect our space as a safe, sexy environment for authentic expression. Freedom thrives when it’s grounded in mutual respect, not unchecked chaos.

Shared expectations allow us to provide a sanctuary for exploration. That means having each other’s backs. It’s often easier to speak up on behalf of someone else than for yourself—so if you see behavior crossing boundaries, step in if you feel comfortable, ideally with a respectful, non-shaming approach. Newcomers may get carried away by the energy, and sometimes a gentle reminder is all it takes.

Of course, if someone blatantly breaks rules or makes others uncomfortable, bring it to our attention immediately. Outside of situations that call for removal, group disapproval of bad behavior is often the most powerful deterrent.

Ladies — please don’t excuse inappropriate actions, and don’t feel obligated to “save” someone from themselves, or volunteer yourself to be their handler. Most ladies, particularly those new to the Lifestyle, don't want to be perseived as a "Debbie downer" "Naggy Nancy" or a prudish or entitled "Karen" and may therefore allow undesired andvances to go unchecked. So for those of you perfectly comfortable using your voice, please use it to reinforce the expectation of verbal consent, even if you personally don't mind uninvited touching. That being said, ladies we all need to feel empowered to use our voice. Know that the women around you support you and your voice, and support theirs in return. Voice your desires and expectations of your partner, and if that includes advocating for you in situations you may struggle to find your voice, share these expectations with them ahead of time.